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Bimmy

Uncle John.

There was a popular comic strip so way back when called "Bringing Up Father."

Created by George McManus, it chronicled the life and times of a fellah named Jiggs, an Irish guy from the streets, whose life changed quickly when he won a million bucks in the Irish Sweepstakes.

Even though Jiggs became richer than Roosevelt, he still wanted to hang out with his pre-nouveau-riche friends, including Dinty Moore (yes, as in the stew), the owner of Jiggs' favorite tavern. This type of behavior did not sit well with Jigg's wife Maggie, who was constantly after Jiggs to act more "refined."

Jiggs also had a brother-in-law named Bimmy, who was a bit of a bum. The only time he stood upright was to head to the kitchen or the pub. But Maggie and Jiggs supported Bimmy's appetites, as Bimmy always added such comedy to the story line.

My father, Frank J., called you "Bimmy". After all, you were his brother-in-law, and one of his favorite people in this universe. You met at Fordham. Frank J. introduced you to his sister, our beloved Aunt Cookie. Bimmy and Cookie remained married for 50+ years.

You were never a layabout, but our hard-working favorite uncle, the one who would pile 20 kids - related or not - into a station wagon, careening dramatically around corners while yelling "wheeeeeeeeeeeee" out the window, hell-bent on reaching the nearest ice cream shop before we all starved to death.

The man who would try to escape for a nap in a hammock at clan gatherings, only to have a pig pile of kids jump on top of him, so many that the hammock gave way, with all humanity landing in a heap on the ground.

You loved Labrador Retrievers and circus peanuts, your children and refreshed kitchen floors, your wife and the New York Giants. Singing Irish songs and Dunkin Donuts coffee. And you never bought a un-used car in your life.

And you were my godfather. I still have a photo of you holding me in my christening gown, looking down at me as if I was the most special creature on earth. There wasn't a time in my life when I couldn't wait to see you.

And a storyteller...one of the best I have ever known. Listening to you and my father talk together at the kitchen table late in the evenings when our families would merge was writer's tutelage for me. A beginning, a middle, and an end. Timing is everything. Keep them laughing despite life's foibles...jobs, kids, elderly parents, and mother-in-laws.

I learned of your passing yesterday via modern technology. My niece Emma texted me a message, "You have to call Mom RIGHT NOW!" When I heard my sister's tearful voice, I knew we had lost a good one.

And you were one of those, Bimmy. No question.

Where the Words Are Said

The Celts believed that our heads, our minds, are part of our souls.

And that stories connect.

The journey stories, my favorites, told to me in childhood, felt nourishing, odd and brave.

Brendan the Navigator went on pilgrimages to unknown lands in a tiny leather boat. He said Mass on a whale's back on Easter Sunday. When the Devil showed him the pain of hell, Brendan was serene. He encountered a heathen giant whom he baptized, though did not civilize.

When he reached the island of his vision, Brendan found a hermit clothed in feathers.

Brendan was Leonard Cohen, centuries before.

They proclaimed him a saint. But I don't know any of those. I think he was just a guy on a trip who kept his eyes wide, wide open.

My friend Vicky Johnsen sent me a quote the other day. And it sums up the importance of stories told, the ones we remember, the ones we always knew. It is from a man named Michael Meade:

"There is this old Celtic thing, that there is very little difference between a song and a poem, between a poem and a story, between a story and a prayer, so that anytime someone is singing a song, or telling a story or reading poetry to a child, they are also inviting the child into a prayer. There's never a need to talk down to a child at all…because something in the child already knows all this and is waiting to hear it again.

So that parents and teachers who give great stories or poems to children are feeding this old soul that is in the child and are reassuring the child that they have come to the right world, that, yes, the world may be confusing and increasingly chaotic, but this is the world where the words are said."

-- Michael Meade

The Words of Men

When you visit Key West, there is a story you will hear.

It is a place in Florida...at the southern-most point...before you reach Castro.

If you are listening, you will be told that the writer, Ernest Hemingway, built a wall.

One around his house, down on Whitehead Street.

It is the most crooked wall you will ever see.

Story goes that Hemingway bought the bricks for a penny apiece, then engaged a couple of cases of beer, and one of his good friends, to help him construct the barrier to keep out the world while he wrote.

The buddy's name: Tennessee Williams.

Ernest Hemingway has always been a hero of words to me. And to visit his home in the January humidity, has been like a trip to Mecca.

As an Irish-American child, I learned how to tell a story from listening to the words of men. My father, Frank J., and Uncle John. They knew how to weave them. As a child I was allowed to sit in the kitchen of grown-ups, so way past my bedtime, resting my head on the table, listening.

In high school, I discovered For Whom the Bell Tolls.

And The Sun Also Rises.

A beginning. The middle. Then the end.

Everything is as it should be...as the story goes.

In middle age, I read A Moveable Feast. I continue to live it. So long after the author silenced himself, way up in Idaho, via a gunshot to the head.

When Hemingway was a child of nine, he wrote: "My favorite authors are Kipling, O. Henry and Steauart Edward White. My favorite flowers are Lady Slipper and Tiger Lily. My favorite sports are trout fishing, hiking, shooting, football and boxing. My favorite studies are English, Zoology, and Chemistry. I intend to travel and write."

Hemingway was a man of so many appetites. You see, and feel them, when you tour his southern home. The woman he loved, then left, there. The photos of safaris and fishing in far-off places. The ancestors of cats called Frank Sinatra and Marilyn Monroe, who still sleep on his bed.

And what amazes me most is how such a man of intense pleasure wrote so true, and so carefully.

How he got so much emotion, intention, and life, into such sparse sentences.

"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places," he wrote.

It is true.

And forever possible.

Walt, Jerry Lewis, and the Color of Leaves

Walt.

You were a Black Lab from Occoquan, VA, born of a young mother in a house high on a hill. You were six weeks old when first discovered, sound asleep in a pig pile of puppies, all fat, full and foolish from a recent meal.

When I asked to see the male Black Labs, you and your brother were pulled from the mob. Your sibling had a head like a cow, and was aptly called "Thunderhead." You, the runt, were more demure...for the moment.

When I inquired about your birth date, it matched the same as my mother's favorite cousin. Hence, you were named "Walter", and placed in a box meant for mayonnaise jars on the passenger seat of the van for the journey home. We weren't even out the driveway of your birthplace before you put your big puppy paws over the edge of the container to have a better look at me. And you started talking, in puppy-ese, letting me know what was on your mind as we motored along. And for almost twelve years, we kept the conversation going.

When we got home, Margaret slid off the couch, sniffed you, then looked at me as if to say, "Thanks, I'll take it from here." And she did. She hauled you by the neck down six stairs of a split level to the yard when there was ever a hint that you might have to pee. She taught you the ropes, growling low in her throat when you did something to displease her, always licking the side of your face when you came in from the yard, muddied, but happy.

And then there was The Kong, the red fetch toy bought back by Yvette from Germany for Einstein the Rottweiler. But you loved it, and, with Einstein's indifference, made it your own. In your early years, that toy encouraged you to act like a total jackass...Jerry Lewis in a Dog Suit. You were relentless in requesting the toy be thrown for you. And that same hard-headedness was on display again today, when, because the cancer had spread to your left hip and lungs, and you were in such pain, it took three shots of medicine to finally make you go to sleep. You kept trying to get up, to live. The vet, amazed, told me she has never seen an animal with a will like yours. So today, that spirit I loved so much, simply broke my heart.

It is Fall here in New England, and elsewhere, and the leaves are at peak color. The Zen Masters say that when we die, our spirits return to a big bucket of energy to become something else in the world. So Walt, are you now the color of leaves, the red, orange and yellow that I see outside the window as I write this? It makes sense to me that you are.

But, I have to say, my all-time favorite memory of you is the hike along the trail in Canyon Lake, Texas, when you, Doug and I happened upon the twin deer fawns, not more than a few days old, laying in the path. Their mother was trying to move them to a safer place when we happened upon them, and she ran the perimeter around us, frantically trying to distract us from her young. You smelled them first, and ran to where they lay, their little heads tucked between their front legs. I called to you, "Walt! Stop!" as you put your nose in between the fawn's heads to sense what they were about. With no intention of harming them, you looked up at us, as if to say, "Look at these beautiful things we have found."

Your absolute goodness. That is what I will miss most about you.

Baton Dreams, The Bomb, and The Swan Lake Sergeant

It's the end of summer here in New England.

Acorns are falling, and drum majorettes are out and about.

While motoring my bicycle along a country road the other morning, I passed a young baton-swingin' woman dressed in majorette costume, marching smartly down the street. A parade of her own, she threw a dazzling baton up in the cool air, and caught it, expertly, behind her back.

The baton.

An article of enthusiasm that almost got me arrested at a very young age.

HISTORY: My mother, Dottie M., always had it in her head that perhaps, maybe one day, I would be someone else.

That is...1) able to piece cloth together so it acceptably covers one's body fashionably in public, and, 2) to become a ballet dancer.

Please understand that grace is not my middle name. Dottie M. insisted on enrolling me, then age seven, in ballet class.

"You need to dance. We are going out to buy a pink tutu for you right now," she announced one day after school.

At that moment, I just wanted to go ride my bike.

But, I had discovered the night before that this ballet shtick was a "two-for-one" deal. The dance school brochure, lying naked on the kitchen table, shamelessly available for anyone's perusal, showed pictures of ballet students also learning how to twirl batons.

Sign me up.

I liked the enthusiasm of the baton twirlers I saw as a child. The Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade featured high-stepping young women wearing square sparkly hats, twirling metal batons fitted with a weighted bulb at each end, backed by a marching band playing "Stars and Stripes Forever".

They were fit, these participants in parades, and did tough things while smiling the whole time. I wanted to learn to be like them. So I endured the fitting of the pink tutu and tights and little soft shoes for the ballet part of the class, so I could get on the road to majoring in majorette.

The Saturday morning of the first ballet class, it was determined that my brothers also needed revision in the form of refreshed crew cuts, and that my father Frank J. would take them in the red Ford station wagon, with baby Kathy riding shotgun in the toddler seat.

That meant the method of transportation to ballet class would be in an additional family auto known as The Bomb.

It was a pea green 1946 Buick you could drop off a cliff and nothing would happen to it, a car Frank J. purchased for 50 bucks from a guy at work. It was embarrassment on wheels. It farted and choked and gasped its way down the street, its horsehair seats itchy against the back of your legs, its noise an audio warning of impending air pollution.

But it got you where you were going, and my mother was determined to drive me to culture, no matter the mode. I was glad to accompany her so I could join the big league of baton twirlers.

When Dottie M. pulled the car into a parking space near the front door of the dance school, The Bomb was particularly flatulent. As she turned the auto off, it backfired and sent a huge cloud of black smoke billowing out its tailpipe. Mothers moved quickly to usher their perfectly-pink children through the dance school front door to avoid the oncoming soot. Dottie M. and I waited for the proverbial dust to settle before leaving The Bomb.

When class started, I felt like Olive Oyl in a world of tinier childhood counterparts. I stood taller and sturdier than all the other girls. The Maternal Peanut Gallery sat in wooden chairs against the studio walls, each pointing out to the others the lovely student who was her tutu-ed offspring. They all cooed and clucked about how cute we children were, when secretly, each hoped her child showed such dancing skill as to pirouette the others into graceful oblivion.

Our instructor was a Martha Graham wanna-be, She had a flat, nasally voice and, seemed to me, wore more red lipstick than Bozo the Clown. She haughtily moved us through the five "positions" deemed important for the budding ballerina to master. Squat, bend, touch your heels, face those feet forward, form a straight line, keep your balance. The Swan Lake Sergeant moved us through our paces, snottily speaking, "one, and two, and keep your balance, and, girls, girls, you are much better than this, backs straight, head up, look at me, not the floor, gracefully, girls, graceful."

Finally, ballet hour over, Miss Sarge turned us over to a young, enthusiastic teenage girl named Beth who gave us each a baton, and spoke to us so loudly that I am sure she thought we were deaf. She showed us how to hold the baton and do a simple twirl, actions we fumbled with, some dropping the sparkling sticks, others catching a baton bulb under an armpit during a twirl.

Then Beth gave a demo, her baton spinning like a helicopter's blades, passing it from one hand to the other, twirling it behind her back, then throwing it up high in the air. "You can do this too," she said. Taking her comment literally, we threw our batons up towards the ceiling with wild abandon. Only problem was mine fell to earth to land on the head of the child standing next to me, knocking the kid out cold.

The little girl, whose name I forget, did come to, and in her dazed condition, held witness with the rest of us the utter chaos of the Maternal Peanut Gallery whipped into an emotional lather. She had a knot on her head the size of Nebraska, and a mother with a beehive hairdo who was not too pleased. Beth was reprimanded for giving such an enthusiastic instruction, and mother-to-mother, it was eventually agreed that it was an accident, the little girl would survive, and no harm was meant. Dottie M. and Miss Sarge eventually soothed all the ruffled feathers, and, needless to say, it was decided that my dancing days were over.

When Dottie M. and I left the dance school, the parking lot was empty. The Bomb was awakened from its slumber, and coaxed into starting one more time for the trip home. Since this was before the days of cellphones, my mother could not relate the dance hall happenings to my father until she saw him in person.

My parents always talked together in the kitchen, at the table, after we were all put to bed. I always loved to watch them do this, as they were in love then, and would hold hands as they talked. I snuck out into the hall of the split level that night to a place where I could see my parents talking in the kitchen a level below. My mother was telling my father the "baton falling from the sky" story, and relating the bedlam that ensued. My father laughed so hard he was crying, and finally wiped his eyes with a napkin. He and my mother hugged each other then, and kissed, parents of children who are characters.

Majorette Image: http://www.cratelabelsonline.com/orange3.html

Remarkable Things

A trip into nature taught me I could love something new.

I was six years of age, on a carefully-planned, permission-slip-OK'd excursion to a local farm.

Once off the bus, we were taken to a barn where there was a big iron circle that held lots of yellow things that moved.

Chicks.

The place where they huddled was golden. A tall man, wearing jeans, picked up a chick and taught me how to hold it gently in my hand, its belly supported by my small palm, tiny legs extended through the cracks between my fingers.

The chick looked up at me, chirped and chatted. I looked closely at its small face, its round, black eyes, studied how my breath softly rustled the yellow down on its head.

I knew then that this was a remarkable thing. I understood I could love something foreign to my current realm of knowing. That I could embrace a creature, or place, outside my family.

I sat there holding the chick while the others petted goats and stared at cows, climbed on hay bales, and laughed at the mud of pigs.

I simply listened and watched the tiny bird, cupping it like a gift. I imagined raising both hands to the sky, like the priest did at Mass, holding the chick up towards forever.

When it was time to go, a teacher was summoned to help convince me to release the chick, to let the man in jeans put it back where it belonged, with its kind, with the others.

I cried into the warmth of my teacher's coat as she patiently held me, waiting for the end of my upset before mixing me with the other kids for the trip back to school.

I stared out the window of the bus on the road back, leaned my face against the hard, soon-to-be-winter-cold window. I had held something unique in my young hands, a lesson that was warm, yet raw.

It was the first time I realized that life was about discovery, and also, became aware of its dichotomy. That if I wanted to get at life, I couldn't let any of it hold me back.

So, as time continues on, there are still remarkable things.

* My friend Phyll paints beautiful portraits of people. We have known each other over thirty years, and I never knew she loved to paint. Last year I stood in The Getty Center in Los Angeles and looked for a very long time at a painting called Portrait of Jeanne Kefer by Belgian artist Fernand Khnopff. It reminded me of a lovely, simple painting Phyll created of her granddaughter Claire.

* My mother had a beautifully-shaped head. I did not discover this until she was diagnosed with brain cancer, and lost her hair due to radiation treatments. My mother became a child again in the last days of her life, eating small green grapes from a white bowl held for her, turning her beautiful head to look at the remainder of her world with the utmost wonder.

* My old Labbie Margaret slipped and fell into a quick-rushing river in the western mountains of Virginia. Doug, without a thought, without considering that Margaret was old and past her time, that he had just spent $300 on a new pair of hiking boots, simply jumped in the water, and dove, and dove again until he found the old black dog who was struggling for air in the dark, swirling water, and hauled her safely to shore.

* In Burgdorf, Idaho, I heard an elk cry out, to "trumpet" some message into the cold, clear night. I thought it was a train, the sound so powerful. We were camped on top of a mountain that evening, with a glorious view of the curved sky, a spiral arm of the Milky Way, with stars so big and bright and numerous. Seeing our breath as we sat in the center of the globe of the world.

from the book Driving Mystic by Mary Gillen
Excerpt of chapter "Remarkable Things"
Publication Date: June 2011
© 2011 Mary Gillen

Images:
The Proud Mother Hen and Chicks 1852, by John Frederick Herring. Found at 1st-art-gallery.com

Portrait of Jeanne Kefer, 1885. Fernand Khnopff, Belgian, 1858-1921. The Getty Center, Los Angeles, CA

Seabiscuit Christmas -- Reprise

NOTE: This post was originally published on 12/23/05. It is a popular one, so here it is again. And the theme and feeling have not changed. Merry Christmas, everyone. Hope it is a great one for you all. - Mary

At noon today, I completed a teaching marathon of 17 days, a race to educate many before year-end. The Bug bought me home through dense traffic traveling south, and tonight I sat down to rest and watch, once again, the movie Seabiscuit.

The story is not just about a scrappy little horse with a big heart, or his over-sized jockey, or the comfort of hearing David McCullough's voiceover. The most compelling character is Seabiscuit's trainer Tom Smith, played by Chris Cooper. At the film's start, Tom Smith is an aging cowboy who is not quite sure where he belongs in the world. He saves a wounded horse from death, and, living alone in the woods, tends the animal. He is considered a crackpot, crazy. "You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause he's banged up a little," Smith tells Charles Howard, Seabiscuit's owner. "Why are you fixin' him?" Howard asks. "Cause I can," Smith says. It's his willingness to be patient, to allow another living creature time to heal, to become itself again, that is most moving. He is odd goodness.

My Irish grandmother Mary told me when I was a child that if you saw seven white horses together in a field, you would have luck. I have seen many horses, but never seven of the same color grouped as in my grandmother's dream. I believe we make our own luck in the world. And it appears most readily through the small peculiar kindnesses given and received every day.

The Zen dudes talk about right intention. How harmlessness, meaning not to think or act cruelly, violently, or aggressively, helps one develop compassion. In the last week I have heard many people comment about the craziness that abounds with folks gearing up for Christmas. Is it because so many people want to control happiness at this time of year? Gathering wish lists, claiming "this is what I want" and "I have to give you as much as you give me."

No, you don't.

Christmas is the mystery of not knowing, the heart of being surprised, a story of the birth of a child surrounded by simple animals and the pure smell of a barn. And it's not about being even. It's the differences that are pure, that are truly meant and passed on. It's having the courage to give without wondering if it will be returned. That is what makes masters, true art, lasting relationships. The courage to create without knowing the outcome.

So this Christmas I hope you receive, and are lucky enough to give so that a child laughs in delight, a friend feels less lonely, and everyone you know finishes this race of a year content in his or her own way.

Montana Police Blotter

When venturing along the road of life, a person cannot help but discover the philosophical undertones of the locations one visits. A good source for this kind of wisdom is always the local TV news.

Have visited places where the top story at 6 p.m. is "Guess who wore flip flops to meet the President?" or "Find out what famous person attended the corn boil today!"

But my favorite is the local newspaper, chock full of life-changing knowledge. You can find helpful health hints, like "soak your feet in Listerine to rid your toes of unsightly nail fungus" or "pour a bottle of Diet Coke over your hair to fade hair dye...and even remove it!"

But to keep up with current events, one immediately turns to the local police blotter.

Here are some from a local Montana newspaper:

Aging Gracefully

7:34 a.m. A lady on Blanchard Drive tends to verbally harass passing drivers while walking her dog. She was informed that this behavior is unacceptable.

Why Are We Here?

10:02 a.m. Employees at a local convenience store are not pleased with the presence of a man who lingers for hours, drinking cup after cup of coffee. His justification lies in the fact that the store offers free refills.

No Respect for Nature

11:17 a.m. Somebody stole a lovely pot of petunias from a home on Mission Trail.

Call the Fashion Police!

1:22 p.m. A man wearing a short-sleeved black dress and carrying flowers lifted his skirt at a pedestrian near an Evergreen supermarket. The flasher then scurried behind a nearby building.

The Price of Gas is Going Up

2:12 p.m. Nine or ten men and women were seen "jumping over the fence" at a Martin City baseball field. They were described as "baggy-pants, rap-type people" and were believed to be stealing gasoline.

Avalanche!

2:22 p.m. Five kids threw rocks in the road on Nicholson Drive. They all agreed to refrain from doing so in the future.

The Middle-aged Should Exercise Daily

3:17 p.m. An intoxicated man in his 50s was seen waving and swinging his arms near a local sporting goods store.

What Else Was He Wearing?

4:11 p.m. Someone noticed a man in a brown jacket pushing a stroller down Highway 93.

Call 911...Ah, Never Mind

8:03 p.m. Reports of a 'man down' in town turned out to be a case of a simple leg cramp.

Thank Goodness, or Was Alcohol Involved?

9:14 p.m. Someone saw what was described as a "big fireball" in the sky on the north side of Hash Mountain. Although the reporting party believed it to be an aircraft, all planes in the area were fully accounted for, and all was well.

54 Quotes

At 3 p.m. today, I became 54.

Years, that is. Swimming pools. Movie stars.

For those of you who know me, you understand that I write in notebooks. Black Moleskin notesbooks. Every day. All year round.

I find quotes, and write them down. I make up quotes, and scribble them in.

Here are 54 of them that I have gathered over the last year, a list in no particular order, a collection of words written for the most part by people so much wiser than I can ever hope to be.

1. "As you get older it is harder to have heroes, but it is sort of necessary." - Hemingway


2. "He is able who thinks he is able." - Buddha


3. "Whenever we try to pick out anything by itself, we find it hitched to everything else in the universe." - John Muir


4. "Adversity makes men, and prosperity makes monsters." - Victor Hugo


5. "You cannot travel the path before you have become The Path itself." - Buddah


6. "When a stupid man is doing something he is ashamed of, he always declares that it's his duty." - G.B. Shaw


7. "No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path." - Buddha


8. "A writer is dear and necessary to us only in the measure of which he reveals to us the inner workings of his very soul." - Tolstoy


9. "Turn your face to the sun, and the shadows fall behind you." - Maori Proverb


10. "In the name of God, stop a moment, cease your work, look around you." - Tolstoy


11. "Take eloquence, and wring its neck." - Paul Verlaine, French poet


12. "He who finds a thought that enables him to obtain a slightly deeper glimpse into the eternal secrets of nature has been given great grace." - Einstein


13. "In a real dark night of the soul, it is always three o'clock in the morning, day after day." - F. Scott Fitzgerald


14. "My life has taught me to be more curious than afraid." - Ishi


15. "But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads." - Albert Camus


16. "At every crossroads on the path that leads to the future, tradition has placed 10,000 men to guard the past." - Maurice Maeterlinck


17. "Young people do not perceive at once that the giver of wounds is the enemy." - F. Scott Fitzgerald


18. "Good writers are those who keep the language efficient. That is to say, keep it accurate, keep it clear." - Ezra Pound


19. "Never go on trips with anyone you do not love." - Ernest Hemingway


20. "Work out your own salvation. Don't depend on others." - Buddha


21. "All my life I've looked at words as though I were seeing them for the first time." - Hemingway


22. "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places." - Hemingway


23. "To be successful in writing, use short sentences." - Hemingway


24. "Never mistake motion for action." - Hemingway


25. "The biggest temptation is to settle for too little." - Thomas Merton


26. "I had nothing to offer anyone except my own confusion." - Jack Kerouac


27. "People living deeply have no fear of death." - Anais Nin


28. "A mind that is stretched by new experience can never go back to its old dimensions." - Oliver Wendall Holmes


29. "Religion is for people who are afraid to go to hell. Spirituality is for people who have already been there." - Bonnie Raitt


30. "If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches; for the Creator, there is no poverty." - Rilke


31. "Own only what you can always carry with you; know languages, know countries, know people. Let your memory be your travel bag." - Alexander Solzhenitsyn


32. "But if you do not find an intelligent companion, a wise and well-behaved person going the same way as yourself, then go on your way alone, like a king abandoning a conquered kingdom, or like a great elephant in the deep forest." - Buddha


33. "Could it think, the heart would stop beating." - Fernando Pessoa


34. "A nation that keeps its eye on the past is wise. A nation that keeps two eyes on the past is blind." - Quote written on the wall of a pub in Belfast, Northern Ireland, posted on Twitter by NGS Travel Editor
    
    
35. "One doesn't discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time." - Andre Gide, French writer


36. "If we have not found heaven within, it is a certainty we will not find it without." - Henry Miller


37. "If we are in harmony with life, life will keep us alive." - George Dibbern


38. "Have courage for the great sorrows of life and patience for the small ones; and when you have laboriously accomplished your daily task, go to sleep in peace." - Victor Hugo


39. "There are two mistakes one can make along the road to truth...not going all the way, and not starting." - Buddha


40. "As long as you have not grasped that you have to die to grow, you are a troubled guest upon this earth." - Mircea Eliade


41. "The whole soulmates idea...is really most useful when you are stealing someone's husband. It is not so good when someone might be stealing yours." - Maile Meloy, Both Ways is the Only Way I Want It


42. "We've all got our good sides and our bad sides. If you want to have joy and love in this lifetime, you've got to live by mercy." - Rhett Ellis


43. "Our life is frittered away by detail. Simplify, simplify." - Thoreau


44. "Until we accept the fact that life itself is founded in mystery, we shall learn nothing." - Henry Miller


45. "One's greatest security is to be loved. Banks fail, love never." - George Dibbern


46. "If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance." - George Bernard Shaw


47. "If you want to know what God thinks of money, just look at the people he gave it to." - Dorothy Parker


48. "A chief event of life is the day in which we have encountered a mind that startled us." - Ralph Waldo Emerson


49. "This is not a novel to be tossed aside lightly. It should be thrown with great force." - Dorothy Parker


50. "Offer them what they secretly want and they of course immediately become panic-stricken." - Jack Kerouac


51. "There is a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in." - Leonard Cohen


52. "...But one man loved the pilgrim soul in you, And loved the sorrows of your changing face..." - W.B. Yeats


53. "Always do what you are afraid to do." - Ralph Waldo Emerson


54. "It is only when you realize that you don't belong to anyone or anything and that you truly own nothing, it is then that your life begins to make any sense. You only belong to something bigger...God, nature, whatever you want to call it. It is then that you have learned to write your name in the dark." - MPG

Happy Bastille Day & the Drunk Good Humor Man

My friend Penny left a comment on Facebook today, in response to a message of "Happy Bastille Day Everyone!" that I scribbled via keyboard on my Wall.

She wrote:

"Wow, someone else who remembers Bastille Day! I'm half French, what's your Irish-self excuse? ;-)"

I have to confess that it is all because of an issue of Mad Magazine and a real-time, usually-drunk Good Humor Man of my childhood that I remember Bastille Day.

When I was a kid, my two older brothers had a subscription to Mad Magazine, that goofy tome that made a point of making fun of absolutely everyone who deserved it, thank goodness, with bylines that consisted of "written and illustrated by The Usual Gang of Idiots."

Still being published today, Mad offers cartoon commentary on current affairs, such as the "Scumbag Billionaire", a full-color poster available for download.

I remember wrestling an issue of Mad away from Fran and Kev one afternoon when I was a young girl. I turned to a page where there was a cartoon of a rather inebriated Old Saint Nick character, stupified by some chemical substance found in his stocking, flying in his sleigh through the streets of a city, screaming "Happy Bastille Day" at shocked bystanders. I thought that was pretty normal, considering the Good Humor Man we had in the neighborhood at the time showed the same type of interesting behavior.

The ice cream man looked just like your vision of Mr. Claus, a tubby chap with rosy cheeks, white hair and snowy beard. But God help you if you actually wanted to buy some ice cream from him.

He would never stop.

Here's how it went:

It was usually a Saturday. Your father had just finished mowing the lawn. You would hear the enticing jangle of bells off in the distance. Good Humor Man! You'd run up to your room to grab that part of your allowance money you had hidden in a safe place, just enough for a Strawberry Shortcake or a Chocolate Eclair, then book it out to the curb to wait your turn to buy some frozen confection. You would see his boxy white truck off in the distance. All the neighborhood kids waiting with you would be as eager to buy a treat.

Soon the Good Humor Man was a block away. And then he was whizzing right past you, a DUI dream, going around the corner in his Good Humor truck at about 50 miles per hour, waving wildly and yelling something incoherent, then zooming away.

That's when my father, and some of the other neighborhood dads, witnessing the horde of their crying ice cream-less children, would run after the Good Humor Man, trying to get him to stop. But Old Santa would already be gone, dashing off to his next hangover.

Happy Bastille Day indeed!

Soon Jolly Old Good Humor was sent off to the Irish Alps to dry out, and we never saw him again. He was replaced by another driver, a skinny joyless fellow who did stop, and when directed by your order, opened a square door on the side of the truck, and reached through the cold steam to find your ice cream. He always held the ice cream back until you handed him your money. If he had to give you change, he pushed down angrily on the buttons of a metal coin changer he wore on his belt.

Perhaps he needed a copy of Mad.

Image of Alfred E. Newman: http://www.dccomics.com/mad/

Rules of the Road

Discovered that a heavy-duty tow truck operator in Idaho bills as much an hour as a programmer who lives, well, everywhere.

We were minding our own business, driving the new RV up through the mountains of Idaho, on our way north to Wyoming. Heard a funny sound. Pulled off into a park in a small town called Soda Springs. We stopped. Upon inspection, found the back axle of the new RV (with less than 2000 miles on it) ready to break.

We are now on the outskirts of Salt Lake City. Roadside assistance sent a fellah named Sean and his big commercial flatbed truck up from Pocatello to schlepp the RV down to a Utah dealership that does warranty repair.

The new axle has been ordered. It will be delivered in a few days. And I am happy to say that we are still here. Got me thinking that this could have been a real disaster, one skirting the realm of "It's been nice knowing you, folks."

So today it is sunny and hot here, and I have been thinking about how things happen, about the rules of the road.

1) It usually takes three times longer to get to a place than expected.

2) A long, steady hike up a hill can promise a different view.

3) Sometimes you have to lose direction in order to find your way.

4) Most days there are no maps.

5) Driving the unpaved road teaches you when to slow down, when to speed up.

6) We all still have our learner's permit.

7) When you can, take the back roads to avoid the nonsense.

8) There is always some new place to go.

9) The destination is where you are right now.

10) Everything is as it should be.

Revisit: Chaunce, Paddy the Slasher and Miss Rheingold

Note: This post was originally published on 6/18/06. Have received so many emails from folks about it, have decided to publish it again. Happy Father's Day, Dad. You are missed.

Father's Day.

It is terribly ironic that, in 1972, Richard Nixon established the third Sunday of June as the permanent national observance of Father's Day.

My father hated Richard Nixon.

Frank J. would yell at the TV whenever Tricky Dick's big face appeared. Funny. I find myself doing the same when I see Dubya.

Some say life is a numbers game. You do your own math with what you've been given. My father had one working eye, two degrees, an all-his-life wife, four kids, 62 years of living, and a laugh that was 100% Irish bar room.

His nickname was "Chaunce", given to him by his grandfather, a tall Irish character named Michael Jeremiah Sullivan, who talked his way through Ellis Island without papers, dragging along two Italian barbers he'd met on the dock who didn't speak a syllable of English. Those three remained friends 'till their dying day.

My father loved the story. One he told me was about the time he and his grandfather were persuading the cows towards the barn for the evening milking when a man with a scythe walked towards them through the field. "My grandfather threw down his stick, ran and embraced the man," Dad said. "It was his brother, Paddy, from Ireland."

Paddy the Slasher.

Seems Paddy was passing through, having heard that gold was available in every field in American, and was on his way west. His worldly belongings were strapped to his back, his livelihood contained in a long, curved single-edged blade. "My grandfather needed a field hayed," my father told me. "Paddy's power was astounding. He was a berserker with that blade." Seems he could clear a field faster than you could think about it.

But Paddy understood the need to get paid, and the instinct to move on. He did. No member of his family ever saw him again.

And then there was the Miss Rheingold incident.

Seems Frank J., with friends and relatives in tow, was out at a New York bar one evening in the late 1940s. When the bill came, everyone turned pockets inside out to discover there was not enough dough to pay the tab.

So my father, in his Irishness, got the attention of the bar owner and told him, "Do you know that you have Miss Rheingold here in your bar this very evening?" Rheingold was a popular beer in those parts at the time, and the competition to be chosen as Miss Rheingold was a coveted nugget. In this case, "Miss Rheingold" was really my father's younger sister, our beloved Aunt Cookie, who was hauled up on the bar's stage, passing the test with her Irish cuteness, and who was goodnatured enough to endure the wolf whistles so the bill could be covered by management, in full.

There isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss my father's story. As a human, he was not without his foibles. He wandered from my mother, drank himself to death, and receded from most of humanity by the time he left this world.

After his death, I found a small flint tin in the box upon his dresser. It held a small curl of my blond baby hair. I have it to this day. It reminds me of the last advice he ever gave me, "to accept what the world hands you. And deal. Just deal."

I am told that I write about him a lot. Others so much "wiser" than I, with raised eyebrows, tell me that I only seek the father figure.

Well, on this very humid Virginia night, I say to hell with them, their theories and all the ships at sea.

The reality is I really liked him. And I don't want him to be forgotten.

Zen Messages Are Everywhere

Adults Say the Darndest Things

Now that the New Zealand trip is complete, thoughts turn to Art Linkletter.

For those of you too young to know, too old to remember, or have no earthly idea who I am talking about, Art Linkletter hosted a very popular afternoon TV show in the USA called House Party, which ran from 1952-1969.

One of the most popular sections of the show was a segment called "Kids Say the Darndest Things" where Art Linkletter asked kids simple questions, and got, as children always deliver, candid answers.

Here's an example of Art Linkletter conversing with a young girl named Karen:

Art: "Who do you think would make a perfect husband, Karen?"

Karen: "A man that provides a lot of money, loves horses, and will let you have 22 kids, and doesn't put up a fight."

Art: "And what do you think you'll be when you grow up?"

Karen: "A nun."

Art Linkletter always responded to answers like this with what I call the "Owl Look" - big eyes and circle mouth:

Adults say the darndest things too. A few favorites come to mind:

1. The Lovely Older Lady

My friend Doug Darby told this story about a neighbor of his, an older lady who, over the years, didn't say much, but always seemed as sweet as Tweety Bird's mother. One day Doug was walking along the neighborhood sidewalk and saw the lady sitting on her porch. He smiled and waved at her. The following conversation ensued:

Doug: "Good morning."

Older Lady: "Don't smile at me, you idiot."

2. Tony Curtis in Medieval Times

The American actor Tony Curtis was from the Bronx, and had the accent to prove it. In the movie The Black Shield of Falworth Tony plays one Myles Falworth, a young squire hell bent on becoming a knight during medieval times. Urban legend has it that Tony recited a famous line in the film while gazing upon his parental home:

Tony: "Yon-dah lies the castle of my fod-dah."

3. No Cutting in Line

As some of you know, I teach technology courses, and am on the road quite a bit. A few years ago, before the invention of online bill pay, I returned home from a training jaunt to discover that my cable bill was due the next day. The following morning I motored, in the pouring rain, to the cable company customer service outlet located in a nearby mall, ready to settle this fiscal affair.

The place was jammed with people. As I walked toward the table in the main waiting area where I could take a number from a small red machine, I slipped on the wet marble floor, went down on my butt and slid to the front of the line. I made a complete stop next to a man who was next to be waited on. He looked down at me and said, disdainfully,:

"I'm next."

And meant it.

Caricature of Art Linkletter: Sam Berman

Snapshots of Art Linkletter and Karen: YouTube

Pineapple Lumps, The Troubadour and Two Internet Ladies

New Zealand is a land of interesting sights, sounds and connections.

As you motor along, you discover things like this:

And also like this:

To this day, I do not know why I am so fascinated by this product, which is a very popular confection with NZ children, and available in most stores. Believe you me, it doesn't taste like any pineapples died for the manufacturing of this candy. It's just that the name is so strange: "Pineapple Lumps." One must make special emphasis on the "L" in "Lumps" when its title is pronounced. It makes even a Yank feel terribly British. On my death bed, my last words will probably be "pineapple lumps."

On the day I found the Pineapple Lumps, we also discovered The Troubadour. We stopped at the equivalent of a state park, and, alongside a beautiful lake, joined many others who were taking advantage of the nice day by picnicing at a group of tables near the water's edge. This gathering included a young man who, sitting on the hood of his car, seemed quite smitten by a pretty young woman who sat quietly reading a book a couple of tables away, ignoring him completely.

So this fellah decided he had the perfect weapon available to win this lovely girl's affection: a guitar. He pulled it out of the back seat of his auto, hopped back up on the hood, and made a big deal out of tuning each guitar string. Then he started to play.

As Shakespeare wrote, "The course of true love never did run smooth." The only singer in this guy's family is the sewing machine.

He proceeded to caterwaul some song I did not recognize. I think it was "Killing Me Softly" by Roberta Flack, but I am not sure. He should have be arrested for disturbing the peace.

The young woman closed her book, stood up, gathered her belongings, walked calmly to her car, got in, closed the door, turned the key, and gunned it out of the parking lot, gravel spewing in all directions in her wake.

"Guess we're not going to that wedding," Doug said, as we quickly finished our sandwiches and left The Troubadour to entertain everyone else.

Near the end of This Day to Remember, we arrived at the hotel where a reserved room and hot showers awaited us. This establishment was run by two older ladies. The registration office was filled with crocheted cats, a myriad of them, multi-colored, in all sorts of feline poses, pinned to the walls, sitting on tables, meowing silently, craftily, and all for sale.

"Weird" is not the word that describes these two, nor does the word "daffy." "Dotty" is the right word. These two women were absolutely dotty.

Doug took one look at our hostesses, and smartly volunteered to take the luggage up to the room while I finished the registration. I nudged a crocheted cat head (which I think was fitted around a roll of toilet paper as a base) out of the way so I could complete the paperwork. Part of our reservation included Internet connection, which usually required the receipt of a username and password at check-in. I inquired about the setup.

"We have Internet connection in the room, is that correct?" I asked.

Dotty 1, whose real name was Shirley, turned to Dotty 2 and announced, "Yes, of course, dear. Margaret will take care of that for you." Poor Margaret looked at me like I had just asked her to go jump off the roof. She didn't want that hot potato. "I've only set one of these up through the computer, so I know Shirley will help me."

Shirley: "Now don't be ridiculous, Margaret, you have done this a thousand times."

Margaret, pouting, looking like an old Shirley Temple: "No I haven't."

So the two of them pushed keyboard buttons and fussed and carried on with each other until the computer spit out the Internet login information for the room. Margaret wrote it on a small piece of paper and proudly handed it to me.

"Is this a wireless connection?" I asked.

"Why, yes it is," said Shirley, as she handed me a plastic pouch that held an Ethernet cable.

"You simply plug this wireless connection into the clock in your room, and you should be connected straight away to the Internet."

I could not make this up.

Crocheted Cat Image: poshlittle.com

The Blue Pearl of a Place

Eastern philosophers believe there is a small blue light that lives inside each of us.

Some say it exists in the head; others, the heart. Through this little orb there is a gateway to something so much bigger than we can ever imagine. Nature, God, spirit...whatever you want to call it. That if we close our eyes and wait patiently, sometimes for many years, it may appear. It is known as the "blue pearl." It is where our soul lives, the place of our essence. And it is said that experiencing the blue pearl reaps the greatest reward, that of coming face-to-face with ourselves.

On this earth, you can also experience the blue pearl of a place. Very near the southern-most tip of the South Island of New Zealand, it appeared unexpectantly, during a stop on the side of the road at a place called McCracken's Rest on Te Waewae Bay.

A sunny day that simply was, along the shore of an ancient water highway used by the Maori as a greenstone route.

It is a place where the wind blows its swirling blanket about you. You sit on the sand and that comfort of air reminds you of your beloved human pack who wish you, as Annie Lamott writes, "traveling mercies." It means, "Be safe, notice beauty, enjoy the journey, God is with you." And it brings tears to your eyes because you believe, deep inside, that you might never understand any of this. But in this blue pearl of place you realize that you have been shown, on this day, a small spark of grace.

Eugene O'Neill wrote, "Man is born broken. He lives by mending. The grace of God is glue."

Graceland, New Zealand

In 2005, while motoring through Texas, I stopped to use a restroom located in the city hall of a small town.

Upon entering the vestibule of the building, I noticed a long display case with a glass front, similar to one found in a candy shop. This, I discovered, was the town's museum. This historical exhibit was supervised by a lady with a terrible perm who was knitting something yellow that looked like it would fit some small person who had three legs. As I walked up to ask her where I could powder my nose, I noticed there were about 25 sets of false teeth on the display case's top shelf.

I was intrigued.

"What's this?" I asked, pointing to the displayed dentures.

"Those are the false teeth of our famous townspeople," she replied, not dropping a stitch.

I was hoping you could wind the teeth up and see them all chatter away together, nudging each other like bumper cars as they trembled around the case. The knitting lady thought that was a rather gauche suggestion, as these teeth had already been separated from their engines, if you catch my drift. And, Lord a goshen and here's hoping the creek don't rise, if you live in that town, you better stipulate to your heirs that your choppers, true or false, are going with you when you leave this mortal coil.

Graceland is everywhere. Even in New Zealand.

Seems the late Fred and Myrtle Flutey, formerly of Bluff, New Zealand, had a Graceland of their own.

It is called the Paua Shell House. It holds the largest display of paua shells in New Zealand, lining the walls of their "Paua Lounge."

A paua is a large edible sea snail. Seems Fred got into the habit of shining up paua shells that he found on the local beach. But his hobby proved detrimental to Myrtle's housekeeping, as he would leave the shells on the floor, making it impossible for Myrtle to vacuum efficiently. So Fred started nailing the shells to the wall of the living room, or "lounge" as it is called in NZ, and the rest is history.

Over one million people visited the Fluteys and the 4000 paua shells that Fred collected. The Fluteys never charged an admission fee. When they passed away, Fred & Myrtle’s Paua Shell House collection was donated to The Canterbury Museum in Christchurch, where you can still see the famous paua shell lounge of Fred and Myrtle Flutey on display.

We did visit the Paua Lounge at the museum in Christchurch, and what a treat. When you enter the room, all aesthetic sense you own melts away, and you stand there, with all the other visitors, dumbfounded at the possibility of the place.

I swear I heard some teeth chattering.

Fred and Myrtle photo: The Canterbury Museum False Teeth Photo: John French, Oxfam

New Zealand Easter Sunday 2009

Quote from New Zealand poet James Keir Baxter (June 29, 1926—October 22, 1972), etched on stone and placed in the water of Wellington Harbor.

Happy Easter, everyone.

Wellington, NZ: Pizza from Hell, Andrew's Life, and Fidel's on Cuba Street

Journal Entry -- 25 March 2009:

"Arrived in Wellington late this afternoon. At the bus station, we found a cab driver from the Czech Republic who transported us to the i-Site Tourist center, complaining that the locals, and the Brits, don't tip him. There is a rule in New Zealand: you do not have to tip anyone, at any time. The sense is that everyone has a job, and are paid a decent wage.

At the i-Site center, the tired young woman who helped us find a hotel was near the end of her shift, and acted as if she certainly wanted to be rid of the likes of us. I don't blame her. She sent us up the hill to a newly-refurbished hotel on Cuba Street. Enormous room, new carpet, huge windows, lots of light. Determined there was no electricity in the room. Then discovered that one must put one's room card key in the slot by the door to activate the room's lighting and power. Saves a ton of energy a year for the hotel. Makes sense.

This is a land of balance. The food is bright, clean and beautiful. The water you drink from the tap tastes like the expensive bottled water one purchases in the States. The egg yokes of this morning's breakfast were a beautiful orange, pure under the fork. People are calm. There is little crime. Children are rosy-cheeked and behaved. The closest I have seen to a brat tantrum was delivered by a small blonde girl standing with her mother at a street corner. The little one stamped a sneakered foot and simply stated, 'No, Mummy, I do not care to do that.' The mother took hold of the little girl's hand, said, 'Straighten up now,' and the two crossed the street.

Doug has gone off in search of takeaway pizza, wine, coffee and dessert. The Internet connection is not wireless, but hard-wired broadband in this room, so I asked him to stop at the front desk on his way out to shop to request that a wireless router be borrowed for our stay.

Soon there was a soft knock on the door, and Andrew, the hotel manager, requested permission to enter so he could install the router. Once it was plugged in, he used the room phone to call his IT folks to activate the connection. While he was on hold, he and I got to chatting about tech stuff, New Zealand weather, and cricket. He told me it had been a tough day. 'My wife is home sick, and I am supposed to be there right now, cooking supper,' he told me. 'I may be getting divorced by the time I get home.' He wasn't looking simply to dump his personal troubles on any available ear, or to have someone feel sorry for him. He was simply stating facts. In New Zealand, everyone has a job to do, and that includes, for some, marriage.

Doug came back with a pizza from Hell. That is the name of the pizza shop down the street, and the pie was great. He also found a bottle of wonderful Australian Shiraz at "the bottle shop" around the corner, plus lattes and apple dessert at a wonderful cafe a block away called Fidel's. Yes, as in Castro.

Walking up Cuba Street today, I noticed a street artist's stencil of Tolstoy's face on a wall, accompanied with the quote, 'In the name of God, stop a moment, cease your work, look around you.'"

PHOTO: Coffee cup illustration on wall of Fidel's Cafe, Wellington, NZ

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New Zealand: Taking the Bus

Seems to me when you visit a place, the more money you spend, the further away you place yourself from the folks who live there.

That means it is time to take the bus to your next destination.

When I think of taking the bus, I am reminded of pre-Christmas childhood travel trips I took from NJ to New York City with my mother Dottie M. to go holiday gift shopping at Macy's. That usually meant having to wear a stupid dress, white gloves and Sunday hat while experiencing a crushing ride in a stinky mobile cannister filled with rude people.

New Zealand has a national bus system called InterCity. It is very slick. You purchase a deal called a Flexi-pass, a set number of hours you use to fly down the left-hand-side of New Zealand's roads in a motorcoach. Yes, that's right, it is not a bus, but a motorcoach. As the vehicle's name suggests, your ride is spotlessly clean and it makes scheduled stops for tea-time along the way. One lump or two?

What I like best are the bus drivers on the system. They switch off every four hours or so. The first one we experienced was named Stan. He was a short, wiry, very strong fellow who wore knee socks with his Bermuda shorts, and could pick up my suitcase (affectionately known as "The Dead Body Bag") with one hand tied behind his back. And Stan gave us a nature tour as we motored along ("If you look to your left, you will notice a myriad of trees that were planted during the Great Depression.")

I have to say my favorite bus driver so far has been Paul. He reminded me of Monty Python's John Cleese imitating a New Zealand motor coach driver, informative about the scenery in a refined presentation, yet at times, slightly indignant. ("Now, I want a moment of silence on this bus to remember all those who died keeping China British.")

The adventure continues...

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